In her book, “Anxiety and Avoidance,” Michaela Swales wrote about the differences between anxiety and nervousness. Anxious people worry about the future, while nervous people simply feel overstimulated. If you’re anxious, you may have a hard time calming down when you get worked up. Many of us are familiar with this feeling of our minds racing, followed by a terrible night’s sleep.
I’m here to tell you that there is hope! There are many simple ways to calm our bodies and minds when we feel too anxious or nervous to handle whatever life has thrown at us. If you’re curious how to calm down when anxious, here are 5 simple tips that can help you feel better right away:
1. Breathe Deeply
Deep breathing tricks your body into thinking it’s in a state of calm and relaxation. When we are anxious or nervous, our breathing becomes shallower and faster, which can make the situation even worse. By taking deep breaths from your abdomen (instead of shallow breaths from your chest), you signal to your brain that everything is okay.
2. Take A Walk
Physical activity like walking releases endorphins, which can improve your mood almost immediately. It also gives your mind a break from whatever was causing you
Have you ever heard the terms anxious and nervous used interchangeably? The truth is that they are two different things, but both are connected to anxiety. Not understanding the difference between anxiety and nervousness can prevent you from making progress with your anxiety.
The main difference between anxious thoughts and nervous feelings is this:
Anxious Thoughts: These are thoughts about the future. They include worry, rumination, and catastrophic thinking (i.e., thinking of worst case scenarios). The goal of anxious thoughts is to control a future event or situation. You’re trying to mentally prepare for what could go wrong so that you’re ready to deal with it when it happens (even though it may never happen).
Nervous Feelings: Nervous feelings come from your body reacting to an actual event (or perceived threat) in the present moment. If you’re feeling nervous right now as you read this blog post, it’s because your mind believes something scary is happening right now, which will continue in the future unless you do something to stop it.
The important thing to remember is that when you notice nervous feelings, there are always anxious thoughts behind them. It’s a cycle: Anxious thoughts cause nervous feelings, which
I used to mistake anxiety for nervousness. I thought the two words meant the same thing, but they really don’t. Anxiety is a feeling of fear, worry or unease about something with an uncertain outcome. If you’re anxious, it means you’re not sure what will happen or how to react. Nervousness, on the other hand, is an unpleasant feeling of fear or worry about something that’s about to happen.
If you’re nervous about a job interview, it means you’re worried about how it will go and you have a sense of what to expect. If you have anxiety before the interview, it’s because you’re afraid of the unknown. You don’t know what to expect from the interview and that uncertainty causes anxiety. I have anxiety before the job interview because I’m not sure how it will go and I’m afraid of failing it. I feel nervous before the job interview because I’m worried that I won’t answer the questions correctly during it.
If you experience intense feelings of fear and worry as a reaction to stressful situations or events and they interfere with your daily life, then your feelings are more likely due to anxiety and not nervousness.
Anxiety can be caused by many things like finances, your job, family problems,
You’re feeling anxious. Your stomach is in knots, your heart is racing, and your mind won’t stop buzzing. You want to go out and do something, but you feel like you might vomit or pass out or lock up. You think you might be going crazy.
You’re not going crazy. This happens to everyone from time to time—it’s an automatic response from your body that is designed to help you deal with threats and other problems. It usually goes away when the threat is gone or when the problem gets solved. But it can also become a habitual reaction that stays with you for long periods of time.
So what can you do? How can you calm down? Here are some tips:
I have suffered from anxiety for as long as I can remember. For most of my childhood, I had no idea what it was and that it even had a name. It wasn’t until I entered into middle school that I started to realize there was something wrong with me.
I used to think that everyone felt like this, that they were all just better at hiding it than I was. Then I started noticing other kids who seemed like they might feel the way I did. When I would see someone else become overwhelmed with anxiety, or when they would say something like “I’m so nervous” or “I’m freaking out,” I would feel relief because then maybe someone else somewhere would understand how I felt.
As time went on and my anxiety worsened, the only thing that kept me going is that one day, things would get better. And they have; slowly but surely, my life has gotten better over the years.
Here are five tips for managing your anxiety:
Anxiety is a normal response to stress or a dangerous situation, but it can become a disabling condition. Click here for 5 tips on how to reduce anxiety.
Anxiety disorders are the most common mental health concern in the United States. An estimated 40 million adults in the U.S., or 18%, have an anxiety disorder. They may feel worried about things in general, have fear of losing control or going crazy, and have trouble sleeping. These feelings may cause physical symptoms, such as a fast heart rate and shakiness. There are different types of anxiety disorders, including generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder, and various phobia-related disorders.
The risks for developing an anxiety disorder include genetics (heredity), major life transitions or traumas (such as divorce, moving, death of a loved one), low self-esteem, perfectionism, and being exposed to stressful events (such as crime, abuse) at an early age. Women are more likely than men to experience anxiety disorders and are also more likely to experience depression with their anxiety disorder. However, men tend to experience more severe symptoms than women.[1]
For years I had a really hard time with anxiety.
I used to be extremely nervous about my public speaking skills and would worry about them for days before any event I had to speak at.
I’m not a professional speaker by any means, but I have done some. Most of the time it’s a small crowd and on some occasions, it’s been in front of thousands of people.
One of those larger speaking engagements happened last year at the Time Inc. (the parent company of People magazine) sales meeting for all its employees around the world.
As you can imagine, these are people who are very successful in their own right and deal with high-level clients on a daily basis. These people don’t want to hear me rant about how to make more money or talk about what they already know; they want something different, something that will make them think differently.
So I spoke about the power of being vulnerable and how opening up and being vulnerable brings out the best in you, both personally and professionally. And how it helps you get what you want from your career as well as your life.

